Thought That Counts

because heavy is the head that wears the crown

Positive to negative, negative to positive

Thursday, May 11, 2006

Thats how what we were taught to make batteries work in different applications. We've always heard the age old phrase that opposites attract. I used to believe in it too, and I still do. But that particular line isn't completely accurate when it comes to real world scenarios. There have been people in my life who are complete opposites. There has been a fair bit of attraction between us (from both ends), but at the end of the day, none of them have actually worked out.

The thought process doesn't match. They collide like lava to flowing glaciers. Neither of us can understand why the other is doing something. Nor do we understand why the other feels a certain way or says things. It becomes so hard to understand where one stands with that person simply because our mind cannot comprehend what they are doing and form logical pattern chains linking them together. Which pulls many to think that the other is wrong, but bound by the relationship they cannot say anything. Is such a relationship worth it?

When a relationship prone to complications is limited to friendship, its manageable. It might be even fun because the two are friends without knowing whats going on in each others lives. They do tend to work. But anything more serious than that, and they'll be wading into treacherous waters. Ego's will clash, personalities will clash, and after the initial spark has worn off, there'll be nothing to keep the two together. And the initial spark wears off too soon when the people don't think alike. One can't love another when they don't agree with them, and that will happen if they are opposites.

For two people to co-exist together, traits within them have to match. If not all, atleast most. Thats what makes great friends too, and thats what makes a perfect partner. One who understands you, one who gets you and things you do. One who can correct you keeping your thoughts in mind. Its hard to find such people, true. But if you imagine your life surrounded by likeminded people, don't you the efforts you put in will be worth it someday?

So, don't try to get close to people who are so not for you. If it happens unconsciously, don't fight it. But if it doesn't, don't try to make it happen. Sometimes the attraction becomes too strong to keep under control. In those situations, all you can do is not expect anything from the other person, because it's not fair to them. Keep your feelings to yourself, or maximum you can do is tell them, but no expect anything in return. Because you might be attracted to them, they might not be to you. You should respect the difference, and move ahead in a relationship keeping that in mind.

Opposites attract, yes! But more often than not, they just don't work!


Need I say it Aditya? I concur ^ ^

In fact, I'd been thinking over the exact same issue for a while now...and I'd say that I came to the same conclusions as you did. I really don't see how the 'opposites attract' theory is supposed to result in a lasting relationship. But I'm really glad that you didn't go completely one way or other because nothing is absolute, as I've come to believe, and it's good to be open to both sides of...anything.

By Blogger Ekta, at 7:21 PM  

um..hate to break this to you but batteries wont work the other way ;)

By Blogger Shikha Choudhury, at 6:06 AM  

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